Posts By: Ellie Dolgin

A New Look at Destiny

Destiny. Every time I hear that word I think of the elusive thing that I am supposed to get to but haven’t quite grasped. It is the tantalizing concept that is just out of reach, frustrating and alluring. Sometimes I feel that it is suspended in the ethers waiting for my evolution to mature, like… Read more »

Exercising the Power to Change

We used to say, “I love you so much! I love you just the way you are and I hope that you never change!” That sentiment used to feel good, but it doesn’t anymore. Not changing used to be the gold standard, almost like we were impervious to life and its lessons, like we could… Read more »

Shaken Into Wakefulness

Last week I participated in an intense qigong workshop, doing slow movements like in tai chi, studying the forms that precede and accompany the changing seasons. There was an emphasis on the physical and spiritual aspects of the forms, feeling them in my body and soul. Practicing in community deepened their meaning as I struggled… Read more »

Loving the Space That You Make

Have you ever gone into someone’s home and felt so cramped that you could hardly breathe?  Their walls and countertops are cluttered with stuff, snuffing out any chance for a pause. Some people feel that making their mark on their surroundings makes their presence important and also protects them from having to face the… Read more »

How to Give a Great Hug

Recently people have been saying to me, “Wow! How did you learn how to hug like that?” I didn’t realize that many people are hug-deprived. Even people with partners long to be held. So, here is my technique and philosophy behind a great hug. Put your arms around the person so that your hands envelope… Read more »

Does Time Exist?

Some scientists say that time does not exist. In the mid-60’s, two American theorists, Wheeler and DeWitt, produced a complex equation attempting to explain how the Universe works. Shockingly they found that time did not need to be factored into this equation. British physicist Dr. Barbour concluded that time does not exist. He argued that… Read more »

Who Really Cares About Your Insecurities?

We were told to pick a partner for the exercise. Luckily Sue was near me. I like to work with her. Here were the instructions: The first person puts her leg on the other’s shoulder or hip (maybe to be off-balance or vulnerable?), cradles her partner’s head in her hands and the partner tilts her… Read more »

Filling in the Blanks

The pattern is familiar. I meet a new friend, know little about him or her, and my mind fills in the blanks. Rather than waiting until experience reveals his nature, I color in the picture with traits that I hope that he has. In a short time I expect behavior that reflects those characteristics which… Read more »

How to Have a Political Discussion

After seeing a movie with a dear friend the discussion accidentally went into politics. I didn’t know that we were on opposite sides of this political divide. The volume exponentially rose and we found ourselves yelling at each other before we got a handle on our emotions and vowed to leave the topic out of… Read more »