Posts By: Ellie Dolgin

Here I Go Again!

Here I go again writing about apologies. I would say that I am sorry for that but I’m not. There is more to be said since apologies are such an important part of relationships. In the old movie “Love Story” when the male heart-throb says “Love means never having to say you are sorry” I… Read more »

Hoping You’ll Forget

It takes courage to apologize. It is much easier to ignore your mistake and hope that both parties will forget it. Maybe that happens to some people…not in my world. An unexpressed apology gnaws at my gut like a huge bowl of ice cream that makes me feel tired and sick the next day. When… Read more »

Two Themes; Two Melodies

Two themes keep coming up for me. One is about the importance of facing our demons – the learned responses from childhood and on that form the lens through which we view the world. Those experiences and the beliefs about ourselves influence how we react in relationships and what we expect from life. If we… Read more »

How to Age Crazy Cool

My mom is so cool! At 92-years-old she has defied all platitudes and expectations. An original thinker, she was always before her time. She meditated and did yoga before I barely even knew what it was and she had us doing yoga poses to clear up a cold. I even remember her jogging in place… Read more »

Quality or Quantity?

What is the measure of a truly meaningful, beneficial life experience? Is swimming 50 laps better for your health than swimming 40 laps? Is having 30 friends come to a party better than having 3 close friends whom you can trust with your most vulnerable feelings? Is working at a job that your parents and… Read more »

The Dangers of Wanting to Be Loved

I am a reasonable person. I have good judgment and can read a situation really well. I am secure and well-adjusted, considerate and articulate. But there is one area that overrides my trust in my intuition, and it does so without seeking permission from my otherwise mature, well-functioning mind. That is when I act out… Read more »

Puddle Jumpers

Puddles and kids go well together. Jumping, skipping, and splashing in puddles is a child’s domain. Kids seek them out, take a running start and feel the sensual pleasure of them, splashing for the sheer glee of it. Do you remember when it was such fun to stomp on water and watch it disperse in… Read more »

Empathy and Narcissism

Our Thanksgiving was lively and rich with family. Kids running around, dogs misbehaving, food heated and served in abundance. But it was particularly intense this year. Within the past few months a close family member had a recurrence of a disease, another was raw from a divorce in progress and my daughter came with her… Read more »

The Naked Truth

Moms can be so annoying! You have lived with their idiosyncrasies your whole life and maybe they haven’t changed. In some cases they have gotten more glaring. And how about those times when you catch yourself acting and sounding just like your mom, saying the things that you have tried to run away from but… Read more »