When my son was 11-12-years-old his grandparents gave him $40 for a birthday present. He thanked them, said it was too much, and gave back half even though he could have used the money to save up for things that he wanted. My husband and I were so proud of this humble gesture and we praised him. He had learned how to refuse generosity making himself worthy of receiving less or was it coming from a place of strength? It was obvious that he understood that being a kind and simple person was more important than receiving material things.
As I look back, I would have handled it differently. Yes humility is a virtue. But graciously receiving is also virtuous. His grandparents gave the amount that was comfortable for them, and I think that receiving with heartfelt appreciation completes the cycle. Both the giver and the receiver feel the joy of the gift. I have learned that an energetically complete circle is gratifying to all involved.
My son turned out spectacularly well in spite of this little slip up on our part and he teaches his children profoundly important lessons everyday.
I used to have a hard time receiving gifts also until I realized I cut off the joy the giver has when giving. I now graciously say thank you.
It would have been nice to have pointed out to your son or his grandparents that he/they could have donated that “too much” to some where that could help another.
Nice story Ellie. <3