We seem to drive through this life with either one of two attitudes – everything is okay or nothing is good enough. “Everything is okay” does not mean that you don’t want more. It means that you appreciate where you are in the moment, who you are with, what just happened. You are present with all aspects and trust that things will change and experiences will come into and out of your life. You are comfortable treating yourself with grace and respect, releasing stress and discontent.
How about “nothing is good enough”? Being with family reminds you of when they are going to leave. Receiving a compliment implies that it is fleeting and there is a host of negative comments lurking under the surface which are more real than the compliment. Consuming a delicious meal is laden with guilt and remorse. An acknowledgement of a job well-done carries doubts and fears that you didn’t really do such a good job and your cover will be blown momentarily. Always on edge, always sour, always critical of yourself and others.
It makes me tired just thinking about all of the attachments pinned to “nothing is good enough”. It is a decision about how you want to treat yourself and believing what you deserve. Rejecting the fulness of joy does not protect you from disappointment. They are not inextricably connected. One is not payment to ward off the other. It cannot be used as insurance. Go ahead and fully enjoy the moment. When pain and sorrow come you can deal with them, but not a minute sooner.
Love this!
This is as wonderful as you are