Which one is afraid to travel? Who is adventurous with new foods and who insists on going back to the same old restaurants? Which one hates the cousins, doesn’t want the responsibility of a dog or lets the papers pile up?
It’s so easy to resist or withdraw because you perceive that your partner is holding you back. Why didn’t you get that degree or work on perfecting your ice skating? Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish someone else’s tastes from your own, taking on behavior that exists only in relation to that person. It feels like you gave in, but was it really your choice too? When you don’t have that partner to butt up against you might find that some of those fears and limitations are yours. It’s worth taking a gentle look inside and seeing who you meet.
