Making friends takes some work. It’s not enough to like someone when you meet. It is so easy to fall off of their radar screen after the meeting no matter how much you felt a connection. My daughter reminds me to follow up with an email to open the lines of communication.
There are so many times that I give someone my card and wait to be contacted. It usually doesn’t happen. I was hoping that I wouldn’t have to make the first move, but, darn it, I usually do have to do it. When I make it casual like meeting for coffee (which is funny because I don’t drink coffee) the person usually picks up on it and we make a date.
Today was my day to reach out to people I’ve met and would like to hang out with. I’ve been checking my email all day to see if anyone responded. In the meantime, I joined two groups, Movie-maniacs and a singles group called Friends First. Take a deep breath and go for it…like my stopping neighbors on the street and introducing myself the first week I was here. Pretty gutsy, I know.
I have a few coffee dates lined up. Yay! At this rate, I’ll either have to start drinking coffee or suggest vegetable smoothie get-togethers in my emails.
Suggest the smoothies, those are your kind of friends. 🙂
It takes time to make friends in a new place. You’ve only been there 4 months. You might have to extend your hand more than you ordinarily would simply because they have been there awhile and are more settled than you so their desire to make new friends isn’t as fresh. But give it tine. It took me a year to make friends in Tuscany. Now they’re friends for life.