Posts By: Ellie Dolgin

They Are Watching Us!

Researcher and author, Dr. Brene Brown, wrote “The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto” which lays the groundwork for successful parenting.  Whether you have children or not, we are all children, and we know how the guidance of caring, conscious parents can encourage our development into adults who make healthy choices from a core belief of worthiness. Here… Read more »

Birthday Wine and Surprises

Yesterday I forgot that it was my birthday.  It was only when I checked my phone for messages that I remembered.  I was preoccupied with a morning meeting, another frozen pipe and an hour to shower and pack before heading to the airport to visit my son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren for the weekend.  Yet amidst… Read more »

A Gift for Both of Us

My daughter was cleaning out her room to get ready for my move to Santa Fe.  She had collected so much stuff!  Her “maybe” pile from last month became today’s “give away” pile.  The framed print of an ivy covered stoop in Italy went into the give away pile while her green, velvet ice skating… Read more »

Free and Clear

I gave away my sculpture stand. I gave away anatomy books dotted with my fingerprints in clay, the pages so worn that they were no longer attached to the binding. I gave to my artist friend armature wire that supports a sculpture like its skeleton. She was thrilled to receive them. New to her; old… Read more »

The Chocolate of Now

Luckily I will be able to sleep tonight.  That’s my deadline to finish a project that I have been working on for months.  Only fifteen more minutes to go until it is done. My husband and I took huge amounts of pictures of our family growing up.  They are in the original camera store envelopes… Read more »

No Need for Therapist

My son and daughter-in-law have a system.  When their almost-three-year-old daughter misbehaves, instead of reprimanding her as a person, they say that she made a bad choice.  She has to go to Time Out against the wall and count to ten.  When she comes back into the family social place, she has to say what… Read more »

Dying is Okay

Today I went to see my 96-year-old mother-in-law who is bedridden, barely able to move and living with Alzheimer’s.  I went to say good-bye.  I thought that this might be the last time that I saw her.  I wanted closure and to know that for one last time I told her that I loved her… Read more »

Dreaming into Existence

It’s my last day in Santa Fe.  I go home tomorrow to an icy driveway, broken pipe, and impending snowstorm.  As the phone calls went from plumber to neighbor I was feeling more and more out of control.  I remembered writing in my last blog about dancing in the face of uncertainty.  It was so… Read more »

Reflection

I am sitting in a coffee shop listening to soft sixties music waiting with everyone else for the snowstorm to end.  Yes, it snows in Santa Fe, and the locals are grateful for the moisture.   I am reflecting on my time here as the month of exploration is almost over. Within two weeks, I… Read more »

Lovingly Offering Nothing

Tonight I have nothing to offer you.  Not a story, not a quote, not a lesson…nada, zip, nothing, zilch.  I could come up with something to write, but my heart is quiet and not into it. This quietness reminds me of the Taoist state called wuji.  It is pure nothingness, before the contrast of light… Read more »